Tuesday, February 21, 2006

This Explains It

The Helper
(you chose CX - your Enneagram type is TWO).

"I must help others"
Helpers are warm, concerned, nurturing, and sensitive to other people's needs.

How to Get Along with Me
  • Tell me that you appreciate me. Be specific.
  • Share fun times with me.
  • Take an interest in my problems, though I will probably try to focus on yours.
  • Let me know that I am important and special to you.
  • Be gentle if you decide to criticize me.
  • In Intimate Relationships

  • Reassure me that I am intersting to you.
  • Reassure me often that you love me.
  • Tell me I'm attractive and that you're glad to be seen with me.

What I Like About Being a Two
  • being able to relate easily to people and to make friends
  • knowing what people need and being able to make their lives better
  • being generous, caring, and warm
  • being sensitive to and perceptive about others' feelings
  • being enthusiastic and fun-loving, and having a good sense of humor

What's Hard About Being a Two

  • not being able to say no
  • having low self-esteem
  • feeling drained from overdoing for others
  • not doing things I really like to do for myself for fear of being selfish
  • criticizing myself for not feeling as loving as I think I should
  • being upset that others don't tune in to me as much as I tume in to them
  • working so hard to be tactful and considerate that I suppress my real feelings
    • Twos as Children Often

      • are very sensitive to disapproval and criticism
      • try hard to please their parents by being helpful and understanding
      • are outwardly compliant
      • are popular or try to be popular with other children
      • act coy, precocious, or dramatic in order to get attention
      • are clowns and jokers (the more extroverted Twos), or quiet and shy (the more introverted Twos)

      Twos as Parents

      • are good listeners, love their children unconditionally, and are warm and encouraging (or suffer guilt if they aren't)
      • are often playful with their children
      • wonder: "Am I doing it right?" "Am I giving enough?" "Have I caused irreparable damage?"
      • can become fiercely protective

      Renee Baron & Elizabeth Wagele
      The Enneagram Made Easy
      Discover the 9 Types of People
      HarperSanFrancisco, 1994, 161 pages

      Link: The Quick and Painless ENNEAGRAM Test written by felk on OkCupid Free Online Dating, home of the 32-Type Dating Test

      Wednesday, February 15, 2006

      Oooh La La

      Reuse, Reduce, Recycle

      Thanks for the pretty picture, Trish!

      Cowboy Love

      A story about a forbidden and secretive relationship between two cowboys and their lives over the years.

      Thanks for the image, Christin!

      Friday, February 03, 2006


      drawing lines, node to node
      drawing a segment from me to you

      staring at data, wondering
      what ever happened to ours?
      we used to make so much data

      now we compile our data
      in silence, eyes averted

      i want to classify our road
      A46: rural road, separated, in tunnel

      are you sure you want to delete this segment?
      okay cancel

      send attachment? yes

      i just want to be with you